The Changing Face of the American Family

Fifty years ago, the American family consisted oftogether for years and share a good relationship with
two married parents who were usually of the sametheir children. When asked, most of these couples
ethnic background and their children. Times havestate that they are married as far as they are
definitely changed. Today, children are being raised inconcerned. The children that are growing up in this
households with every type of family unit imaginable.type of family unit do not seem to be detrimentally
Interracial relations have become more commonplaceaffected by these circumstances.
than they were a few years ago. The children thatMore American families consist of a grandparent who
are a result of these relationships do not have tois raising her grandchildren. For one reason or another,
deal with the problems and challenges that werethe child's own parents cannot raise their children. To
faced by ethnically mixed children of the past. Thatprevent their grandchildren from entering the foster
does not mean that they have no problems at all,care system, the grandparent steps in as the main
however. Teaching your child to embrace andprovider. This situation can cause a number of
celebrate their race can help build their self esteemdifficulties. A retired grandparent may need to go
and help them to feel as though they "fit in" withback to work in order to financially support her
other children.grandchildren. These older individuals may not have
Unfortunately, divorce has also become morethe stamina that is required in caring for these
commonplace in today's society. Some researchersyoungsters. This type of family also destroys any
estimate that 80% of all homes are headed by anormal grandparent/grandchild bonding as the
single parent, usually the mother. This situation can begrandparent is no longer a trusted friend but is now
extremely difficult for children, especially little boys,an authority figure.
who need a male role model in their lives. If you areNot quite as common are children that are being
divorced and do not have custody of your children,raised by same-sex parents. As gay marriages
you should try to remain as involved in your children'scontinue to be legalized in more and more states, this
lives as you can.type of family may occur more often. This type of
You and your ex spouse should also agree not tosituation will create its own set of problems, including
talk negatively about each other in front of thecustody issues if one parent leaves or dies
children. This can lead to the children to feel hostileunexpectedly. There will need to be new legislature
towards the absent parent.passed to deal with the issues of children in a
Another type of American family that is becomingsame-sex family unit.
more common is couples who choose to liveThe traditional American family is becoming a thing of
together without marriage. Many of these couplesthe past. To help your children deal with the issues
claim that they are happier than their marriedthat pertain to your type of family, you may need to
counterparts as they stay in the relationship becausetalk to a family therapist or other type of family
they want to, not because they feel as though theyprofessional.
have to. Some of these partners have been