| Being the wife of someone serving in the armed | | | | the people who will be serving under and with your |
| forces puts a woman in a unique position. Though she | | | | husband. You will get the participation from others |
| and the children are not signed up to serve Uncle | | | | once they see that you are serious about getting to |
| Sam, in many ways they are as much a part of the | | | | know them. |
| military as is their spouse. | | | | If you are worried about learning the ropes, make it |
| When your husband is going to be in a position | | | | a point to spend time with your husband's senior |
| where he is going to be commanding men, the | | | | officer's wife. Usually she has been a service wife for |
| pressure on the family and especially the wife may | | | | many years and you can benefit greatly from her |
| be great. There are many women who once their | | | | advice and experience. |
| husbands are wearing the stars and bars think they | | | | In order to build camaraderie, have a get-together on |
| are the one that should have the soldiers snapping to | | | | a monthly basis and invite the other commanders as |
| it. Most women of this type are not particularly well | | | | well as the higher ranked officers. Try to have the |
| liked by the other wives and it can contribute to a | | | | other couples over for an informal dinner or a cocktail |
| negative perception of the husband as well. | | | | party at your home. |
| It is wise to be prepared when your husband will be | | | | Use the Other Wives to your Advantage |
| rising in the ranks. It is important to remember that | | | | Though you want the other wives to think you have |
| both your husband and you will often feel as if you | | | | it all together and nothing can faze you, you will be |
| were being examined under a microscope and in a | | | | giving them a false impression of you. Let the wives |
| sense you are. The higher the command your spouse | | | | of your husband's men know that you too need help |
| is offered the more scrutiny will be focused on you | | | | and if you all work together as a team you can get |
| and the family. | | | | any job put before you done. Share in the |
| You want to help your husband lead effectively and | | | | responsibilities and show them your willingness to |
| you can be an asset to him by following a few simple | | | | work hard and they will be more than happy to do |
| steps; | | | | their part. |
| Being the wife of a commanding officer can add | | | | Some wives will be new to the base and others will |
| more social responsibilities to your calendar. Only do | | | | be preparing to leave. You can be sure you are there |
| what you feel you can do best and allot what you | | | | for the wives in the same way your husband is there |
| can't to others. You shouldn't expect yourself to be | | | | for his men. As a military spouse you have unique |
| able to take care of everything. | | | | responsibilities and there are high expectations of the |
| Do your best to create strong relationships among | | | | wife of the commanding officer. |