| Being the wife of someone serving in the | | | | relationships among the people who will |
| armed forces puts a woman in a unique | | | | be serving under and with your husband. |
| position. Though she and the children | | | | You will get the participation from |
| are not signed up to serve Uncle Sam, in | | | | others once they see that you are |
| many ways they are as much a part of the | | | | serious about getting to know them. |
| military as is their spouse. | | | | If you are worried about learning the |
| When your husband is going to be in a | | | | ropes, make it a point to spend time |
| position where he is going to be | | | | with your husband's senior officer's |
| commanding men, the pressure on the | | | | wife. Usually she has been a service |
| family and especially the wife may be | | | | wife for many years and you can benefit |
| great. There are many women who once | | | | greatly from her advice and experience. |
| their husbands are wearing the stars and | | | | In order to build camaraderie, have a |
| bars think they are the one that should | | | | get-together on a monthly basis and |
| have the soldiers snapping to it. Most | | | | invite the other commanders as well as |
| women of this type are not particularly | | | | the higher ranked officers. Try to have |
| well liked by the other wives and it can | | | | the other couples over for an informal |
| contribute to a negative perception of | | | | dinner or a cocktail party at your home. |
| the husband as well. | | | | Use the Other Wives to your Advantage |
| It is wise to be prepared when your | | | | Though you want the other wives to think |
| husband will be rising in the ranks. It | | | | you have it all together and nothing can |
| is important to remember that both your | | | | faze you, you will be giving them a |
| husband and you will often feel as if | | | | false impression of you. Let the wives |
| you were being examined under a | | | | of your husband's men know that you too |
| microscope and in a sense you are. The | | | | need help and if you all work together |
| higher the command your spouse is | | | | as a team you can get any job put before |
| offered the more scrutiny will be | | | | you done. Share in the responsibilities |
| focused on you and the family. | | | | and show them your willingness to work |
| You want to help your husband lead | | | | hard and they will be more than happy to |
| effectively and you can be an asset to | | | | do their part. |
| him by following a few simple steps; | | | | Some wives will be new to the base and |
| Being the wife of a commanding officer | | | | others will be preparing to leave. You |
| can add more social responsibilities to | | | | can be sure you are there for the wives |
| your calendar. Only do what you feel you | | | | in the same way your husband is there |
| can do best and allot what you can't to | | | | for his men. As a military spouse you |
| others. You shouldn't expect yourself to | | | | have unique responsibilities and there |
| be able to take care of everything. | | | | are high expectations of the wife of the |
| Do your best to create strong | | | | commanding officer. |