| Being the wife of someone serving in the | | | | among the people who will be serving under |
| armed forces puts a woman in a unique | | | | and with your husband. You will get the |
| position. Though she and the children are not | | | | participation from others once they see that |
| signed up to serve Uncle Sam, in many ways | | | | you are serious about getting to know them. |
| they are as much a part of the military as is | | | | |
| their spouse. | | | | If you are worried about learning the ropes, |
| | | | make it a point to spend time with your |
| When your husband is going to be in a | | | | husband's senior officer's wife. Usually she |
| position where he is going to be commanding | | | | has been a service wife for many years and |
| men, the pressure on the family and | | | | you can benefit greatly from her advice and |
| especially the wife may be great. There are | | | | experience. |
| many women who once their husbands are | | | | |
| wearing the stars and bars think they are the | | | | In order to build camaraderie, have a |
| one that should have the soldiers snapping to | | | | get-together on a monthly basis and invite |
| it. Most women of this type are not | | | | the other commanders as well as the higher |
| particularly well liked by the other wives | | | | ranked officers. Try to have the other |
| and it can contribute to a negative | | | | couples over for an informal dinner or a |
| perception of the husband as well. | | | | cocktail party at your home. |
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| It is wise to be prepared when your husband | | | | Use the Other Wives to your Advantage |
| will be rising in the ranks. It is important | | | | |
| to remember that both your husband and you | | | | Though you want the other wives to think you |
| will often feel as if you were being examined | | | | have it all together and nothing can faze |
| under a microscope and in a sense you are. | | | | you, you will be giving them a false |
| The higher the command your spouse is offered | | | | impression of you. Let the wives of your |
| the more scrutiny will be focused on you and | | | | husband's men know that you too need help and |
| the family. | | | | if you all work together as a team you can |
| | | | get any job put before you done. Share in the |
| You want to help your husband lead | | | | responsibilities and show them your |
| effectively and you can be an asset to him by | | | | willingness to work hard and they will be |
| following a few simple steps; | | | | more than happy to do their part. |
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| Being the wife of a commanding officer can | | | | Some wives will be new to the base and others |
| add more social responsibilities to your | | | | will be preparing to leave. You can be sure |
| calendar. Only do what you feel you can do | | | | you are there for the wives in the same way |
| best and allot what you can't to others. You | | | | your husband is there for his men. As a |
| shouldn't expect yourself to be able to take | | | | military spouse you have unique |
| care of everything. | | | | responsibilities and there are high |
| | | | expectations of the wife of the commanding |
| Do your best to create strong relationships | | | | officer. |