| International adoption opportunities are | | | | be able to care for them but that you were. |
| available for people to be able to adopt | | | | |
| babies, children and older children; you just | | | | A lot of adopted children grow up to be |
| need to know where to look and to whom the | | | | successful and happy adults. Some even go on |
| correct people are to talk to. By this we | | | | to be world leaders in their chosen field. |
| mean, the correct Local, Private or | | | | Others are just plain good nice people and |
| Governmental Agencies. | | | | the world needs lots of these. |
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| If at all possible, try and learn as much as | | | | Being adopted can affect children sometimes |
| you can about the child you are trying to | | | | but it is important to remember that at all |
| adopt this might not be that possible and if | | | | times these children are just that, children |
| it appears impossible then ask yourself why? | | | | and remember to give them lots of love and |
| There may be a reason for this and sadly or | | | | understanding and with that you can help then |
| tragically, you may want to reconsider your | | | | gain their true potential. |
| position on this if the correct answers to | | | | |
| the pertinent questions arent forthcoming. At | | | | Nobody is perfect, neither you nor your |
| the end of the day, sometimes a leap of faith | | | | child. Sometimes perfection is just too |
| is required should you feel suitably | | | | impossible to achieve and so dont try. |
| motivated. International Adoption is not | | | | |
| easy. | | | | Try to create a positive environment and try |
| | | | to use positive language such as birth mother |
| If you can (and you should), avoid telling | | | | instead of real mother. Remember also that it |
| any other members of your extended family | | | | does take time to change peoples attitudes. |
| everything you know about your childs | | | | |
| background somethings a child likes to keep | | | | If your adult child decides he or she wishes |
| private and especially any negative | | | | to try and find their birth parent, this |
| experiences should be shared when the child | | | | doesnt automatically mean that you have |
| feels the time is right and is comfortable. | | | | failed them in any way, they need your |
| | | | support. You were there for them when they |
| At all times do not keep the fact that they | | | | needed it most and this will always be |
| are adopted secret from your child. Openly | | | | remembered |
| admit that they have been adopted and that it | | | | |
| was your love and desire for them to join | | | | The one thing you must always do is to ignore |
| your family that prompted this decision and | | | | those who tell you that adoption is in anyway |
| share this information as and when they are | | | | substandard to biological parenting. If they |
| ready to understand this. Mention that sadly | | | | have never tried adopting someone, how would |
| their parents werent able on this occasion to | | | | they know? |