| International adoption opportunities are | | | | werent able on this occasion to be able |
| available for people to be able to adopt | | | | to care for them but that you were. |
| babies, children and older children; you | | | | A lot of adopted children grow up to be |
| just need to know where to look and to | | | | successful and happy adults. Some even |
| whom the correct people are to talk to. | | | | go on to be world leaders in their |
| By this we mean, the correct Local, | | | | chosen field. Others are just plain good |
| Private or Governmental Agencies. | | | | nice people and the world needs lots of |
| If at all possible, try and learn as | | | | these. |
| much as you can about the child you are | | | | Being adopted can affect children |
| trying to adopt this might not be that | | | | sometimes but it is important to |
| possible and if it appears impossible | | | | remember that at all times these |
| then ask yourself why? There may be a | | | | children are just that, children and |
| reason for this and sadly or tragically, | | | | remember to give them lots of love and |
| you may want to reconsider your position | | | | understanding and with that you can help |
| on this if the correct answers to the | | | | then gain their true potential. |
| pertinent questions arent forthcoming. | | | | Nobody is perfect, neither you nor your |
| At the end of the day, sometimes a leap | | | | child. Sometimes perfection is just too |
| of faith is required should you feel | | | | impossible to achieve and so dont try. |
| suitably motivated. International | | | | Try to create a positive environment and |
| Adoption is not easy. | | | | try to use positive language such as |
| If you can (and you should), avoid | | | | birth mother instead of real mother. |
| telling any other members of your | | | | Remember also that it does take time to |
| extended family everything you know | | | | change peoples attitudes. |
| about your childs background somethings | | | | If your adult child decides he or she |
| a child likes to keep private and | | | | wishes to try and find their birth |
| especially any negative experiences | | | | parent, this doesnt automatically mean |
| should be shared when the child feels | | | | that you have failed them in any way, |
| the time is right and is comfortable. | | | | they need your support. You were there |
| At all times do not keep the fact that | | | | for them when they needed it most and |
| they are adopted secret from your child. | | | | this will always be remembered |
| Openly admit that they have been adopted | | | | The one thing you must always do is to |
| and that it was your love and desire for | | | | ignore those who tell you that adoption |
| them to join your family that prompted | | | | is in anyway substandard to biological |
| this decision and share this information | | | | parenting. If they have never tried |
| as and when they are ready to understand | | | | adopting someone, how would they know? |
| this. Mention that sadly their parents | | | | |