| How To Foster An Environment For
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| | behavior.
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| Successful Communications
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| | Children are by nature easily distracted
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| With Your Child
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| Copyright 2005 Dr. Charles Sophy
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| | environment. It is the responsibilityof
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| Keep 'Em Off My Couch
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| | the parent to emphasize positive patterns
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| As parents, we strive to address all of
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| | ofcommunication and ensure the child
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| the questions askedby our children. If
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| | learns that ignoringcommunication is not
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| we don't have the answer, or don't
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| | acceptable. Early prevention, in theform
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| likethe question, we would never think of
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| | of educating your child about the proper
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| ignoring the child.
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| | forms ofcommunication, is the key to
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| We do not accept improper communication
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| | ensuring that the non-verbalagreement
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| as acceptablebehavior. Most parents,
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| | does not take hold.
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| however, are quick to excuse oroverlook
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| | If your child has already grown
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| the behavior of their child when he / she
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| | accustomed to this style ofcommunication,
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| reactsthe same way and are often left
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| | here are some essentials to assist you
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| wondering when the lines ofcommunication
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| | inaddressing the situation:
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| broke.
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| | Talk: To your child, and explain to them
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| Picture this: Five year-old Jason is
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| | in age-appropriateterms how they are
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| riding home from schoolwith his father.
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| | communicating and why it doesn't work.
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| Jay's favorite CD, the Shrek
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| | Show: Your child how to communicate
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| soundtrack,is in the player and while he
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| | effectively, even whenthe questions are
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| usually sings along, today hedoesn't
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| | hard. Role-play a conversation to
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| appear to be paying attention to it. Two
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| | showthem a more effective way to
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| blocksaway from their house, they pass
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| | communicate.
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| the softball field where agame is in
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| | Practice: Be sure you are aware of
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| progress. Dad announces "Jay, when we
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| | yourself and the way inwhich you
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| get home,you're going to need to clean-up
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| | communicate to others. Children model
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| all the toys on the floorin your room. We
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| | adultbehaviors. Be sure you are not
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| wouldn't want anyone to fall." Jay
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| | guilty of poor patterns ofcommunication
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| doesn'trespond. Dad knows that cleaning
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| | with your spouse or parenting partner.
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| up toys is one of Jay'sleast favorite
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| | Be Consistent: Be constant in the manner
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| activities so he waits a few moments
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| | in which youcommunicate with you child.
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| andtries again. Still no response.
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| | Send the same message with eachand every
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| In the pause between tracks on the Shrek
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| | interaction. Allow your child to see that
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| CD, Dad tries toget Jay's attention again
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| | you willcall their attention to those
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| by simply speaking louder, keepinghis
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| | times that the unwantedbehavior rears its
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| tone warm and pleasant. And again, his
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| | ugly head.
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| comment is metwith no acknowledgement
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| | Remember: Kids will be kids and they
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| from his child. Turning on to
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| | will sometimes bedistractive and
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| theirstreet, Dad loses his patience and
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| | non-communicative. You are the expert
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| raises his voice, barkinga command that
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| | inknowing your child's behavior and can
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| Jay is to march straight to his room
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| | best judge theimprovement in their
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| andclean up his toys "for the fourth
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| | communications. The best way to
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| time!" Jolted to action,
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| | ensurehealthy communication patterns is
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| Jay rushes out of the car when they
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| | to model positivecommunication skills.
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| return home and headsstraight to his
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| room, not emerging until dinner time.
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| | Dr. Charles Sophy currently serves as
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| The interaction between Jay and his
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| | Medical Director forthe Los Angeles
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| father is the result ofa non-verbal
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| | County Department of Children and Family
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| agreement between them. Reinforced by
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| | Services (DCFS), which is responsible for
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| previoussimilar exchanges, Jay's parents
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| | the health, safetyand welfare of nearly
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| have fostered anenvironment where they
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| | 40,000 foster children. He also has
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| have tolerated his lack of responseto
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| | aprivate psychiatry practice in Beverly
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| their directions, and he has learned that
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| | Hills, California.
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| his lack ofcommunication is acceptable
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| | Dr.
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