Treating Jealousy

Even if you do not have suffered from a jealousdoing through using an example like that of their
sibling or have acted like a jealous vindictive spoiled"good" sister or brother, it is preferable if you just
kid against your sister or brother when you werestate your reasoning and provide sound arguments
young and immature, you have probably heard thatfor your position, as speaking to an adult. Creating
jealousy between siblings can be a very powerfulguilt to your child will never bring the desired results
emotion leading children and parents to deal with alland you will be facing in the future lifelong
sorts of unexpected "thrills." Neglected older childrenresentments and grudges that will follow them
or "babies" that cannot get over the fact that theyforever.
are not alone in world compete against each other in- Cultivate the unique skills of your children
order to gain their parents' attention. This annoyingIn order to build your child's self-esteem, foster his or
situation can become an endless source ofher skills in a different way from that of his/her
competition and rivalry between siblings. Thus, thebrother or sister. Children that enjoy the outcomes
following five tips were collected to assist parents inof their special efforts together or through the exact
managing jealousy and bringing harmony back intosame way are prone to feel less loved or neglected.
their homes.Set your children's successes apart and keep the
- Treat children as unique individualsnecessary balance.
Siblings do not to be treated exactly the same.- Spend time alone with each kid
When it comes to family, democratic guidance isBefore regretting not spending more time with your
usually advisable, but it should not be considered akids, make this precious time your priority and focus
"golden rule." Giving exactly the same amount of loveon finding the time and the energy to explore the
and attention is not always feasible and in manyvast possibilities of spending some quality time
cases it is not even wise. This is supported by thetogether.
fact that children become suspicious instead of being- Decide and draw the necessary boundaries
satisfied with what parents are able to offer.Respect each other's stuff and premises is of
Treating kids as individuals instead of equals canextreme importance. Teaching your kids what it
reduce them from counting every single act andmeans to show respect to the personal space, like
making comparisons.bedrooms, or needs, like time alone to relax, is of
- Avoid comparisons at all costsextreme importance in wisely parenting your children
Never compare the acts of one child with that of theand helping them build character.
other! Instead of telling them what they should be