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Avoid These 5 Adoption Blunders!

In over 21 years of working in the field of
adoption, I have seen and heard of every kind" If you have paid a woman posing as a birth
of blunder you could imagine in adoption.mother or one that was considering adoption
Some were made out of ignorance and othersand you just thought it would be ok to pay a
out of stubbornness, flat out stupidity orfew expenses behind your adoption
just  procrastination.professional's back, learn from this. In some
states expenses are illegal and you don't
It is my hope that by sharing some of thesewant to do anything to jeopardize your
embarrassing mistakes with you, you won'tadoption  finalization.  When  in doubt, ask.
fall prey to them and your adoption journey
will be void of these and filled with more" I am surprised at the number of adoptive
peace and calm without guilt or regrets. Hereparents that put off doing their home study
are  the  five most common adoption blunders:and miss opportunities or forget to update
their home study. They find out it is going
1. Not reading your adoption agreement orto cost more to get it done when they needed
contractit done "yesterday". If you have a home study
that was completed more than 12 months ago,
2. Making decisions from your heart and notcontact your home study provider to see when
your  head  and  heart  together.it expires, and document this in your
calendar. If it is expired - inquire on the
3. Going against the recommendations of yourhome study update process and cost, and then
adoption professional regarding money to amake a point of getting it down within 30
birth  mother.days.
4. Putting off getting your home study" If by chance you have forgotten to stay in
completetouch with your birth mother, now is the time
to consider: where you would be without her?
5. Going back on your word regarding contactI know I would not be a mommy without my
with a birth mother after your adoption ischildren's birth mother and because of that I
final.want to always respect both our agreements
and their privacy. Take time today to send a
If you have already made these blunders, youletter to your birth mother or to your
can correct your directions and still findadoption professional to forward. A simple
peace.  Here  are  some  solutions:card with a photo or note letting them know
they are thought of and special is a way to
" If you have a contract you have not read,say thank you for making your family. It is
you can correct this by reading it now, ifnot taking away your role as parents, it is
your adoption is not complete. Ask questionsrespecting your child and how they came to be
of your adoption professional. It is not tooyours through their first family. You will
late!be  blessed  by  honoring  your  commitment.
" If you have already made decisions withI hope this has helped you and that you will
your heart and have heartache to show for it-find knowing what to avoid will help you in
learn from it and next time, take a deepyour adoption and beyond. God Bless you in
breath and look at all sides of a situationyour adoption.
before  you  jump  in  or  commit.



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