| Even if your loved one is not around anymore, you | | | | loans including quickly taken personal loans that can |
| have to pick yourself up, dust yourself and move on, | | | | cause a lot of complications. The next great problem |
| because nobody else can do it for you ultimately. In | | | | is that of housing. The asset whose division causes |
| the following, we are going to look at some of the | | | | maximum problems is the residence. One spouse |
| ways in which divorce affects our lives. There is no | | | | usually stays back in the house, while the other has |
| way to average this, of course, as the impact differs | | | | to move out. The burgeoning property prices in the |
| from person to person. | | | | UK has prevented most divorcees from buying |
| The Positive and the Negative | | | | apartments of their own, resulting in a hike in the |
| Like everything else that is of earth-shaking | | | | rentals in some areas in the prime cities. It is highly |
| importance in our personal lives, divorce too has | | | | advisable that you plan the financial implications of |
| positive and negative impacts. And like everything | | | | divorce well in advance so that you are not left |
| else that is human, there are no solid black and white | | | | suddenly helpless and fending for yourself, and even |
| divisions here. A potentially harmful effect can give us | | | | worse, your children as well. |
| the strength that we did not know we possessed | | | | Single Parenthood and Custody |
| and make us turn a new leaf. Similarly, what seemed | | | | Children are very important to their parents and, |
| to be great as a starter may soon grow to be a | | | | sometimes, so important that they become the |
| curse rather than a boon, bringing in more sorrows | | | | weapons in a battle between two grown-ups. Joint |
| than it was supposed to eliminate. The factors cited | | | | custody may be a solution, but is a bad idea if the |
| below are, therefore, double-edged swords, and how | | | | parents continue bickering, using their children as |
| we look upon them depends on our set of personal | | | | spies, forcibly change their daily schedules to suit |
| circumstances. | | | | each household etc. Single custody with visitation |
| Loneliness and Lack of Intimacy | | | | rights is the hottest area of fighting in divorces, and |
| Being lonely and being alone are not the same. One | | | | once the decisions have been taken, it may be very |
| may find solitude peaceful and like a balm, on the | | | | difficult for the single parent to cope with the sudden |
| other hand, it can grow to a deafening silence at | | | | burden of bringing up a child alone. Maintenance dues |
| times. We all crave for the human warmth of | | | | may not be cleared on time, and the Child Support |
| another fellow creature beside us when we are | | | | Agency is not always successful in bringing the errant |
| physically or emotionally lonely. Many divorcees fear | | | | parent to book. Custody has its own heartaches as |
| returning home at night as they see the long, dark, | | | | no parent can define what is ‘enough’ time |
| endlessly lonely nights stretching into the distance. | | | | for having a ‘healthy relation’ with one’s |
| One can be terribly lonely in a crowded pub | | | | own offspring. Children need both parents to have |
| surrounded by friends, or in a quiet room with no one | | | | balanced minds, but do they have a choice? |
| around. Overcoming this gnawing emptiness is | | | | New Relations and Affairs |
| everyone’s personal mission; support groups | | | | There is no use in holding on to a tattered old relation |
| may be helpful up to an extent, but the mind has to | | | | after the divorce is over and done with. New |
| be managed by ourselves. Pets, children or adopting | | | | relations and affairs can be heaven or hell, depending |
| children may also help. Work is also a good energiser. | | | | on the persons involved. But it is true that some |
| Division of Income and Assets | | | | amount of socialising is needed after divorce; |
| According to a survey, divorce affects the average | | | | otherwise one may slide into an easy bout of |
| British citizen more thoroughly than disease or | | | | depression. |
| bereavement. The number of people who have | | | | Personal Freedom |
| applied for bankruptcy due to divorce has gone up | | | | What is freedom? For some, it translates to evenings |
| too. The general problem that afflicts more than | | | | of partying, for some it means a better career, and |
| 60% of the divorcees is the management of heavy | | | | for some, chances of brining up children better. |