| In the UK, this week is Adoption Week. The one | | | | procedure, but that it is what it is. In an attempt to |
| time of the year when all the Organisations and | | | | heighten and increase the awareness of Adoption, |
| Charities involved in all the aspects of Adoption get | | | | Organisations involved tend to couch their terms in |
| together to try and help raise the awareness of | | | | warm comfortable phraseology that tends to wash |
| what Adoption is really all about. | | | | over the fact that for every "warm cuddly adoptive |
| Now in theory this is all "fine and dandy" (to coin a | | | | family" waiting to welcome into their arms "the child |
| phrase) but as with all things (Adoption is no | | | | of their dreams" their will be sometimes be a Birth |
| different) there are Winners and there are losers. | | | | Mother who is going to be forever separated from |
| Now it may be a crime of immense political | | | | her child. |
| incorrectness to look at this way but there really isn't | | | | Now in a great many cases, this entire process is for |
| any other truthful way of looking at it. | | | | the better but in the past the separation of birth |
| It is called the "Adoption Triangle", the Holy Trinity of | | | | mother and child has quite often been a forced and |
| Adoption, The three sided equation but in reality | | | | painful one and there are very few Birth Mothers in |
| there is more. | | | | existence today who haven't thought regularly of the |
| On the surface of it there is just the Birth Mother, | | | | child they had and what could, possibly might have |
| the adopted child and the Adoptive Parents but | | | | been. |
| would that it was that simple. In reality the adoption | | | | People forget that the role of being a Birth Mother |
| triangle involves two families in total. On the Birth | | | | isn't always filled by the Alcoholic drug ridden |
| Families side you have the Birth Parents (everyone | | | | typecast incapable young girl, the image so lovingly |
| tends to forget about the Father), the adopted | | | | played upon by some Adoption organisations. Quite |
| child's siblings (that's brothers and sisters to you and | | | | often the conception and actual birth of a child is a |
| me) and their Grandparents, Uncles & Aunts etc. | | | | complete social disaster for a number of reasons |
| On the adoptive families side there are an equally | | | | some of which lie beyond the control of the birth |
| large number of involved personnel (albeit to a | | | | mother herself. The adoption is a traumatic |
| different degree) and these all will have in truth some | | | | experience that will leave scars of guilt forever |
| impact though none fall into consideration when the | | | | etched in the psyche of the birth mother herself. |
| Adoption is processed. | | | | It is said that time is great healer but there are some |
| It sounds cold and clinical to talk of Adoption as a | | | | scars and experiences that even time cannot heal. |