| Not all married couples are gifted with a child. Some | | | | bring up as their own but to help the child have a |
| of those who marry late are not that blessed. Others | | | | family. Spouses who belong to this category are |
| who have infertility issues may also not be that lucky | | | | those who have long tried to conceive but |
| to have kids of their own. | | | | unfortunately, are not capable of doing so due to |
| When couples desperate to have their own biological | | | | biological factors. These people have somehow |
| children are faced with this situation, their only option | | | | healed and have come to terms with the fact that |
| is to go for adoption. However, this is not a | | | | they can never have their own children. |
| generalization because not all husbands and wives are | | | | Once couples accept their situation, it is only then |
| open to this idea. While one spouse may be looking | | | | that can they embrace the idea of adoption. But |
| forward to this, the other may have mixed feelings. | | | | even then, family and marriage counseling still plays |
| One partner may feel the need to adopt a child to | | | | an important role as some couples may continue to |
| fulfill his or desire to become a parent while the other | | | | go through certain stages experiencing different |
| one don't consider it a necessity as he or she may | | | | negative emotions such as anger, denial and sadness |
| find it hard to accept an unrelated child. There will be | | | | before acceptance is reached. |
| differences in feelings and opinions hence, it is | | | | Family counseling is an effective method of threshing |
| strongly recommended that couples think their | | | | out issues couples face. Therapists are skilled in |
| decision many times over. | | | | handling problems that affect a husband and wife |
| When making a decision to adopt a child, couples | | | | such as with regards to having a child or adopting a |
| should be clear and honest about what they want to | | | | child. They can help couples answer questions that |
| each other. There may have been misunderstandings | | | | have been bugging them for quite some time. |
| about this issue in the past and they can come up | | | | So if you're one of those going through this stage, |
| again during this stage when adoption is being | | | | there are certainly many questions that you need to |
| considered by one spouse. | | | | answer before you and your partner make a final |
| Should a husband and wife, however, become | | | | decision. These pertains to your feelings towards |
| undecided, the best route to take then is to go for a | | | | getting a child not related to you, the way you're |
| family and marriage counseling. With a family therapist | | | | going to raise him or her, whether you will have to |
| or psychologist as a guide, couples are assisted | | | | face behavioral problems later on, how you're going |
| through proper discussion of the issue. Once they | | | | to tell the child and your friends about the truth and |
| come to understand what's involved in the adoption | | | | deal with possible discrimination at school and in the |
| process, then they can make a compromise. | | | | community and so on. Seeking professional guidance |
| Adoption can only be an easy process for couples | | | | is the best way you can come up with the answers. |
| who have a natural desire to raise a child not only to | | | | |