Real Happy Endings - Adoption Myths and Media Distortions

Whether exploring the decision to adopt a child as anhad a higher rate of emotional and behavioral
infant through domestic or international adoption orproblems than non-adopted people. Research more
to adopt an older child through the child welfare anduseful and valuable to prospective adoptive parents
foster care system, it is understandable prospectiverecognizes the variations between the different
adoptive singles and couples would wonder about thesituations and backgrounds of adopted children.
possible outcomes of the effects of adoption onIn recent times, adoption advocates have also noted
children. Virtually everyone has heard 2nd or even 3rdan overall negative bias of mainstream media against
hand of an adoption story with a painful or horribleadoption they believe grossly distorts the reality of
ending for both the child and family. The media grabsadoption and fuels many false myths. Dr. George
onto these rare occurrences and shamelessly focusesGerbner, a researcher at the Annenberg School of
on the pain and heartache of all involved.Communications at the University of Pennsylvania,
By the end of coming to the decision to welcome afound evidence in 1988 of a detrimental bias against
child into their home to love and nurture, adoptiveadopted children in many TV shows and movies. He
parents will have heard countless tales of cautionreportedly found many highly familiar and popular
from friends and family of things that can and haveprograms often regularly depicted adopted children as
gone terribly awry with other adopted children."problem children"--drug addicts, victims, and so on
Stories from the mainstream media often paint afar more than depicting adopted children as resilient,
picture of adopted children as at odds with theirproductive, and hard-working. Regrettably, many
adoptive family, emotionally disturbed or even bitterpeople continue to gather their ideas and impressions
anti-social drug addicts. Less shocking, newsworthy,about adoption and adoptive families from such
and far more prevalent though are the majority ofshows and news stories.
adoption stories that go on to have real life happyThe reality is most adopted people are not more
endings for both the child and parents. In reality, thesociopathic, nor more violent, than non-adopted
majority of prospective adoptive parents can safelypeople are. When discussing millions of people who
suppose their adopted child will most likely maturewere adopted, from those who are infants to those
into a normal psychologically healthy adult and go onwho are elderly, it is impractical to generalize to any
to marry, raise biological &/or adopted childrenvalid conclusion about the future of children adopted
and lead a happy productive live.into loving and caring families. Just as with most
In "Growing Up Adopted," a study released in 1994non-adopted people of the world, some children are
and often cited by Adoption professionals andvery talented or brilliant and some are less capable
advocates, results strongly indicated the majority ofand have more factors pre-disposing them to
adopted teens in their study were strongly attachedpotential difficulties. Most adopted people fall within
to their adoptive families and psychologically healthy.the normal range.
Previous research on adoption consistently combinedMuch of the misinformation and fears people have
all youths adopted as infants with youths who hadregarding adoption--that adopted children do not
survived neglectful and abusive situations, often forblossom, that adopted families are dissatisfied--can
years, before adopted. Additionally, being transferredusually be linked back to unsound research or
through several foster home placements beforeunsupported oversimplification. Adoption is most
being adopted into a permanent home has andefinitely not a one size fit all solution for every
enormous impact on a child's emotional well-being andfamily in every situation. Nevertheless, millions of
interpersonal relationships that was not accounted forsingles, couples and families have used adoption to
as a variable.produce joyful, flourishing and caring families.
Researchers did not make a distinction betweenMoreover, at no other time in history have there
difficulties children had that may have been related tobeen more resources and support available to
adoption versus difficulties related to non-adoptionprospective adoptive parents to gain useful and
issues. Recent research findings continue to beneeded information to prepare them for the
encouraging and challenge the results of some olderchallenges and joys parenting and adoption will bring
studies on adoption, which indicated adopted peopleto their lives.