Kids at Restaurants - What Are the Rules?

The issue of kids in restaurants has becomealthough it may be slightly shocking, your kids can
surprisingly controversial in recent years, especially insometimes be annoying to strangers-especially in
areas where vibrant dining cultures mix with largegrownup-oriented places like restaurants.
numbers of urban professionals with young children.2. Seek family restaurants: Of course, there are
Mini-firestorms have sprung up in places like Newplaces that do advertise themselves as child-friendly
York, Chicago, and Los Angeles, where growingrestaurants. If you're not sure about a place, go
populations of affluent young parents have beenonline and check out its website and its Yelp profile.
fleeing the suburbs for the urban centers. In aIf it says that it's a family or child-friendly restaurant,
corresponding trend, restaurants that don't presentthan you should be good to go at any time of day.
themselves as child-friendly establishments have seenOn the other hand, if a place advertises itself as a
a growing number of young children during peakromantic restaurant that's great for intimate dates,
hours, and this ruffles the features of many. Kids cankeep your kids far away.
be loud, messy, and all-around obnoxious. As a3. Check the menu: Not every family-friendly
grown-up just wanting to have a calm, relaxed mealrestaurant advertises itself as such. If you want to
with your spouse or friends, the presence of smalldouble check whether a certain place is okay, look at
children at the next table can be disruptive to saythe menu. If there is a section of the menu for kids,
the least.then it's a family-friendly place. If there's no kid's
If you wish to avoid becoming one of "those"section, then it might not be the best choice for your
parents that habitually take their children to thefamily dining.
wrong places at the wrong times, keep these things4. Observe manners: When you do go out to eat
in mind:with your kids, it's a good opportunity to teach your
1. Respect the unwritten rules: As busy youngkids table manners. Encourage them not to stare at
parents, we have a lot of things on our minds, andothers, to keep their voices down, and to eat in a
it's often a little too easy not to think things through.clean manner.
We think that just because kids are technically not5. End crisis situations: When a child throws a temper
banned from a restaurant, then it's okay to bringtantrum in a restaurant or refuses to stay quiet, it's
them. But the fact is that there are unwritten rulesnot good enough to simply shrug and make a
that most adults have to learn to respect. One ofsheepish face. Do everyone else in the restaurant a
these rules is that, while your kids are of course veryfavor and remove the child from the restaurant. You
precious to you, they don't automatically garner themay have to end your meal early, but it will teach
same unconditional delight from strangers. In fact,the child an important lesson.