Helping Your Child Adjust to Adoption

Do you tell your child the truth?ways that families are formed. The best time to do
Honesty is the best policy, especially in the case ofthis is in November because it's National Adoption
adoption. One of the really difficult questions toMonth. The kids will understand that adoption is just
answer is, why did my real parents give me up? Mostone way that a family comes together, just like how
adoptive parents work hard to preserve their child'stwo previously married people blend their families or
self-worth by helping them understand that their birthgoing to live at Grandpa's house.
parents could not, raise you the way you deserved,If your child is African, Chinese, or any other ethnicity
so they made the decision to let you be free to joinyou can teach his/her classmates all about their
a family who could give you everything you need.culture.
If your child notices that you look nothing alike admitRebellion-
that he/she is right and then let the child explain howYour child may feel angry about being given up for
that makes him/her feel. Kids ask different questionsadoption, anger at you for adopting him or her, anger
at different periods in their life. Considering the child'sat everybody because his life has challenges that
feelings will help you understand what's really on thethey do not face. Even though each situation is
child's mind.unique, adoptive parents generally understand that
Handling Bias and Prejudice-anger and to not take it personally.
Anytime a child is considered different, due to theirExperience the Joy-
family situation, the color of their skin or the slant ofYou will probably have challenges but you also
their eyes, can be forced to deal with bullying. Youexperience the joy of knowing that you chose to
are your child's first line of protection. Bullying needsmake a family with your child. Discover other
to be dealt with straight away by intervening withadoptive families in your community to friendship. You
teachers and other families. Children shouldn't have towill find that they are a little bit extra special because
suffer bullying.they climbed a steeper path to create their families
Think about asking your child's teacher if you (orand they cherish those families even more for all the
they) can present information about the differentextra effort it took to come together.