Help I Want to Have a Baby

Having a baby is easy, right? You fall in love with thesomething you want to go to Tijuana and have done.
person of your dreams; you get married, and then- Look into a support group for other couples that
become pregnant. Sounds pretty simple, right?experiencing the same feelings as you and your
Unfortunately the truth of the matter is that thispartner. Even though it may feel like you are all alone
process is not quite so simple for everyone. If you'vein this journey, you aren't. There are thousands of
been trying to become pregnant for more than 12couples around the world going through the same
months it may be time to have some testing doneemotions as you.
by your doctor to find out if there is an underlying- Be there for each other. Each person in the
cause.relationship is experiencing a different type of
This can be a very discouraging time for you andemotions. While you both may feel disappointed, you
your partner. Looking for a huge sense ofmay deal with it in completely opposite ways. Be
accomplishment when your pregnancy test saysthere for your partner when they need it most.
positive and not getting that satisfaction can beAllow them to release their feelings without passing
devastating for some people. Here are a few thingsjudgment on them.
to remember.- DO NOT BECOME CONSUMED! This may be the
- First of all do not play the blame game. Not withmost important tip. Do not allow this small bump in
your partner and especially not with yourself. Nothe road to swallow up everything else in your life.
individual is truly, "at fault" for the delay in startingThis can be traumatic for your relationship. Seek
your family. There could be a number of thingsmarriage counseling if necessary to ensure that you
causing it.keep the solid foundation that your relationship has
- Do make an appointment with your physician.been built on.
Discuss your feeling s with them and tell them whatAlso keep in mind that there are other options for
you have been doing to try and become pregnant.starting a family. Adoption is a wonderful choice. You
They may let you know about other methods thatwould be able to provide love and a safe
you have not tried.environment to a child that may not find that
- Ask your physician for a recommendation to aotherwise.
reputable fertility clinic. This delicate matter is not