Finding My Birth Mother

Usually, a child will only be able to find a birth parentSuch information can be provided to the adoptive
who wants to be found. Where can an adoptedparents by the birth parents themselves, or by the
person look to find a birth parent. It can take time toagency or attorney handling the adoption.
find a birth parent if the caregiver has limited contactInformation
with the parent. You might find a birth parent butBirth parents can refuse to allow adoption information
they don't want to meet you. This is done throughto be released, or they can file a Release of
advertising or networking with professional contacts,Information allowing the records to be opened when
friends and family to find a birth parent. Therefore,the child reaches adulthood. If you have searched the
sometimes adoptees are cautioned that they mayInternet and all the sources you can find and still
find a birth parent either dead at an early age, in jailhave not found the information you are seeking, then
or any number of undesirable possibilities. Anotherit is time to purchase complete information resources.
thing to realize is that while you may have tended toFamily
view adoption as a positive, joyous event, it'sPsychologically speaking many adoptees, have issues
important to appreciate the fact that for all yourand need therapy to deal with the grief and loss they
teen's gratitude, he/she may also feel that he/shefeel at not having been able to grow up with their
has "lost" his "natural identity," and as a result, he/shebiological family. Even if they are happy with their
may even begin to express aplace in their adoptive family, they may still be dealing
never-before-articulated desire to find a birth parentwith the effects of their early life experiences. " The
or parents. Perhaps they will experience rejection orresearchers found that adoptees search for their
find a birth parent who needs emotional or financialbirth family because of both a sociological and a
support they are not prepared to give. "Just becausebiological need.
your son or daughter wants to find a birth parentConclusion
doesn't mean you did something wrong. SupposingMany people wonder why anyone would want to find
one could even get past this point to adopt a child ora birth parent that gave them away or abandoned
find a birth parent, there still remains a starkthem. But this emotional difficulty must be overcome,
difference between the accepted procedures ofif one is to find a birth parent. Many of the stories
such personal issues. If you decide to find a birthboth from adoptees who want to find a birth parent,
parent on your own and then find a suitable agencyand birth parents who want information about the
to set things up as opposed to going through thechild they surrendered, are heart-breaking while
agency, this can cost you quite a bit less.others are very joyfull. These people all had a real
Adoptionneed to find a birth parent and I think it take a very
While tracing your birth family don't be afraid to askstrong person to start searching, but the rewards far
for counseling to help you work out your feelingsoutweigh the drawbacks in my opinion.Good luck in
during this time. Adoption records are automaticallyyour journey!
sealed until the adopted child reaches the age of 21.