| Just forty minutes of EFT dissolved a lifetime of pain | | | | Even though I was betrayed by my daughter's |
| and grief for a birth mother that I worked with, and | | | | parents, and they never even tried to keep to the |
| gave her back her life. I specialize in working with | | | | agreement that we made... and I choose to consider |
| adoptees and birth mothers, and would like to share | | | | that maybe they did what they did out of fear. The |
| a story about a birth-mom client that I recently | | | | emotional charge at this point was zero out of 10. |
| worked with. Nancy (not her real name) was birth | | | | Next we tapped on Nancy's feelings of sadness over |
| mother to a 16 year old daughter relinquished in what | | | | never getting the chance to see her daughter as she |
| was supposed to have been an open adoption. | | | | grew up, which she was supposed to have been able |
| An agreement was reached between Nancy and the | | | | to do. |
| adoptive parents which was supposed to have | | | | Even though I feel deep sadness about missing out |
| provided for regular visits with the daughter that | | | | on my daughter's entire childhood... |
| Nancy relinquished. Unfortunately, the state in which | | | | Her emotional charge had initially been a 10 out of 10, |
| her daughter was adopted had no legal protection for | | | | but several rounds of tapping bought that down to 4. |
| birth-moms in this situation. When the adoptive | | | | Even though I have a well of sadness inside me |
| parents failed to follow through on the agreement, | | | | because I never got to see my daughter as she |
| Nancy had no recourse. She was denied visits with | | | | grew up, and I feel like I can't start crying because |
| her daughter throughout her childhood, in spite of the | | | | I'd never stop... That round of tapping bought Nancy's |
| agreement. | | | | emotional charge down to zero. |
| Nancy spent 16 years being sad over the loss of her | | | | Last of all, we worked on Nancy's grief, which was |
| daughter, and feeling betrayed and very angry that | | | | at a 10, using her own words. |
| the agreement that had been reached was never | | | | Even though I'm full of grief because it feels like my |
| honored. This sadness, anger and betrayal touched | | | | daughter died, and nobody ever let me grieve that |
| every part of Nancy's life, and left her feeling | | | | loss... |
| frustrated and triggered by even the smallest issues | | | | Three rounds on that bought her emotional charge |
| that arose concerning her daughter. | | | | down to 3 out of 10. |
| Nancy was desperate to find a way to take the | | | | Even though I'm full of grief over the loss of my |
| emotional charge out of these issues, and was willing | | | | daughter, and nobody ever acknowledged that grief, |
| to give EFT a try. Using Nancy's words, we started | | | | and that just made it harder for me... Now Nancy's |
| by tapping on: | | | | charge on the grief was zero. |
| Even though I'm full of anger at my daughter's | | | | Nancy's entire session took 40 minutes from start to |
| adoptive parents for betraying me... | | | | finish. At the end of that time, she said, "I can't |
| Three rounds of tapping bought the anger, which | | | | believe how much better I'm feeling. I don't think I |
| was off the scale to begin with, down to a 4 on a | | | | need to do any more tapping today". |
| scale of 0 to 10. Three more rounds of tapping | | | | We scheduled a follow-up session for Nancy, but a |
| starting with, "Even though I'm mad as hell at my | | | | few days beforehand, she called to tell me that she |
| daughter's parents and hate the way they treated | | | | didn't feel that she needed any more sessions. She |
| me..." bought it down to zero, and left Nancy saying, | | | | indicated that she no longer went to "the dark |
| "Wow, this stuff is amazing!". From there we moved | | | | adoption place" any more, and was feeling happy, |
| on to betrayal: | | | | confident and empowered. |
| Even though I feel totally betrayed by my daughter's | | | | During a three week follow-up call, Nancy indicated |
| parents... " | | | | that she felt so empowered that she had spoken to |
| That took the emotional charge from a level of | | | | her daughter's adoptive parents and told them how |
| intensity of 10 down to a 7. | | | | she felt about the way in which they behaved. She is |
| Even though my daughter's parents betrayed me and | | | | now happily planning to pursue a relationship with her |
| only cared about getting her and didn't care about | | | | daughter. |
| me... which bought Nancy's emotional charge down to | | | | Not long after that she had a warm reunion with her |
| 2. | | | | daughter. |