Coping With an Unplanned Pregnancy

After you discover that you are pregnant, you mayUltimately, it is your decision. If you decide to carry
be frightened and worried about having anthe baby to term, but would like to give it up for
unexpected baby. Depending on your situation, youadoption, you have many resources available to you.
may be unhappy to have a child because of age,Pregnancy clinics and adoption centers can offer
finance, social, or emotionally reasons. You may besupport and information to help you make an
single and scared to face motherhood alone or atinformed decision. You can also receive pre- and
such a young age. You may be married, but do notpost-natal care, legal assistance, housing, and
want any more children. Whatever your situation, anmaternity clothes through pregnancy and adoption
unplanned pregnancy can occur when a condomservices.
breaks or birth control pills fail, or for a number ofUnlike the horror stories of adoptions in the past,
other reasons.today adoptions use a very open process that offer
After you discover you are pregnant, try not toyou complete confidentiality. You can choose from a
panic. Initially it will be quite a shock. Allow yourself tolist of hopeful parents. If you desire an open
feel these emotions at first. Slowly, the shock willadoption, you can meet with the couple and remain in
fade and you will be able to think about the decisionscontact with them after you give up the baby. This
that lay ahead. After collecting your thoughts,gives you the peace of mind that your baby is
research your options so you can make an informedreceiving the best care and love possible. A closed
decision. You have the options of abortion, keepingadoption gives you anonymity so you have no
the baby, or giving the baby up for adoption. Decidecontact with the adoptive parents or your child after
what is best for you and the baby. Although youthe adoptive process has been finalized.
may have a decision in mind, remember that the maleAlthough an unplanned pregnancy may be an
involved also has a role in the decision-makingunhappy occurrence at first, it can turn into a happy
process and has rights and responsibilities to the childexperience for you. If you decide to keep the child,
as well.you will be blessed with the baby's happy smile, along
After you have had some time to think and collectwith the memories that will last forever. If you give
your thoughts, you may want to confide in a familyyour baby up for adoption, you will be able to give
member, close friend, or religious clergy member. Findthe greatest gift to a hopeful couple who can give
someone that can be supportive of your decision oryour baby the love and attention that every child
who can offer you advice without unneededdeserves. Whatever you decide, make an informed
pressure. Although your boyfriend, husband, or otherdecision so you can feel secure and happy about it in
male involved may be the first you tell, this doesn'tthe years that follow.
always have to be the case.