| I did a session with a birthmom today that left me | | | | - Even though I was betrayed by a system that only |
| with a lot on my mind. She gave up son up in what | | | | cared about my child, and not about me, and that |
| was supposed to be an open adoption, but the | | | | makes me really angry, I deeply and profoundly love |
| agency refused to commit anything about that to | | | | and accept myself, and I hold myself in kindness and |
| paper. Even though the birthmom spoke with the | | | | compassion. |
| adoptive parents and they agreed to regular visits, | | | | Reminders: |
| pictures and ongoing contact, there was nothing to | | | | - I'm so angry |
| prove that they had made that commitment. | | | | - And I feel betrayed |
| In point of fact, the adoptive parents refused this | | | | - The agency lied to me |
| birthmom contact with her son for 18 years. Only | | | | - The adoptive parents lied to me |
| when he was old enough to start making his own | | | | - Nobody cared about me |
| decisions did she get to see him. | | | | - They only cared about my baby |
| This birthmom was very angry, and felt betrayed. | | | | - And that makes me angry |
| How could she feel anything but betrayed, under the | | | | - And feeling very betrayed |
| circumstances? An agreement had been made in | | | | - I'm so angry |
| good faith (at least on the part of the birthmom) and | | | | - But maybe I can start to let go of that |
| years down the road she was still feeling like the | | | | - I feel so betrayed |
| system had completely let her down. And it had! | | | | - But maybe I can work on that |
| I have no answers here. I'm just railing against a | | | | - I was lied to |
| system that treats people the way our current | | | | - But maybe I can put that behind me |
| system does. Nobody has a right to treat another | | | | - I was betrayed and that hurts |
| person the way the birthmom I worked with was | | | | - But I need to move on |
| treated, and the way the many other birthmoms | | | | - So much anger |
| through the years have been treated. | | | | - So many feelings of betrayal |
| Feeling betrayed by the system? This may help: | | | | - But I choose to start working |
| Setup: | | | | - On releasing those feelings |
| - Even though I feel angry about having been | | | | - Letting go of the anger |
| betrayed by the entire adoption system, I deeply | | | | - Letting go of the betrayal |
| and profoundly love and accept myself. | | | | - Letting those feelings drain away |
| - Even though I was lied to and misled by the | | | | - And replacing them with an energy of healing. |
| adoptive parents and the adoption agency and that | | | | And to all you birthmoms who have been through |
| makes me angry, I deeply and profoundly love and | | | | this kind of painful experience, I wish you healing and |
| accept myself. | | | | peace on your journey. |