Birth Mother's Day: Remember Where It All Began

Remember Where It All Began... National Birthhope and encouragement about the decision she
Mother's Daymade. When she sees a happy and healthy picture of
Remember where it all began... The landmark day youher birth child, she has confirmation that her decision
became parents... It's pretty clear that the day ofwas the right one. The occasional visit, if agreed upon
your adoption is not like any other day. It's the dayand handled wisely, can help to balance out the lives
you became a mother, your husband became aof each person involved: the birth mother, the child
father and your parents became grandparents. Yourand the adoptive family, by honoring the wishes of
life is forever changed and no other event will everthe person who gave them so very much.
encompass all you have gone through to get to thisShould you doubt these truths, seek out some
day.stories on open adoption, speak to someone who is
There is someone else who is a very importanta birth parent, or ask your adoption professional for
person; someone who had deep feelings of loss andsome references to reinforce your decision to
sadness on that day. That special person is yourchoose open adoption. Then, honor your birth
child's birth mother. She has gone through a greatmother's wishes, always.
ordeal to bring you this day. Without her, none ofYou are your child's parents, no doubt. But a birth
you would have come together.mother never forgets the birth of her child. Even if
All members of the adoption triad will remember thisthe child is out of her sight, they will never be truly
day vividly and with deep emotion.be gone from her memory. This woman was your
Sadly, it is sometimes necessary to point out andchild's first mother and because of this, your child will
remind adoptive parents, or parents-in-waiting thatalways remain in her memory and in her heart.
these children find their adoptive parents after a longConsider a gift of the Adoption Prayer Bracelet for
and often difficult journey suffered by their birthanyone touched by adoption. It is a reminder to pray
mothers. We must never forget this very importantfor all those touched by adoption, and pray without
woman who, by strength of character, or difficulty inceasing for those waiting to adopt or those hoping
circumstances, or both, opted to give the gift of ato be adopted.
child to those who could not have one. For thisPlease, take the time to send pictures regularly or
reason alone they deserve respect, recognition,when requested. Whatever your agreement is with
consideration, thoughtfulness and kindness, fromthe birth mother, commit to it and follow through as
those who benefit from their decision.promised. If you need any incentive, simply look into
Letters and pictures, at the very least, are not muchyour child's eyes and remember where it all began!
to ask and often provide your birth mother with