Adoptive Parents Abusing Their Children

p>The recent headlines of children found locked inbiological parents. Their misbehaviors are really
cages at their home in Wakeman, Ohio by adoptivesurvival tactics to protect themselves from getting
parents, and the 4-year-old girl in Utah killed by herclose to their caretaker and possibly suffering more
adoptive parents is shocking. But those of us parentsabuse. Oftentimes they target the adoptive mother,
who have lived with children diagnosed with Reactivebecause their own mother hurt them.
Attachment Disorder (RAD), like the victimizedIt's important that we adopt children quickly to
children in the headlines, are not surprised by theprevent them from lingering in the system and
parents extreme frustration and hopelessness---developing extreme cases of RAD which left
although their abuse cannot be forgiven.untreated, can develop into anti social behaviors that
RAD is a condition that keeps children detached anddrive some caretakers to abuse. It's just as
constantly struggling for control over their caretakersimportant that parents are trained how to handle
because they do not trust. Parents go insane tryingthese children before their adoption, as well as how
to raise these children who lack values, morality, asto take care of themselves during these stressful
well as demonstrate aggressive, disruptive andtimes.
antisocial behaviors.Mindfulness, how to live in the moment, helped me
It's extremely difficult for adoptive parents to findthrough the most difficult periods when my adoptive
help for RAD children. Traditional therapy does notson was tearing our family apart. But my husband
work for a child who has this condition becauseand I had to go to 21 different therapists before
therapy is built on trust. RAD children do not trust.finally finding help for our son. There is hope, but us
Many have been abandoned, and hurt by theiradoptive parents need support.