Adoption Rollercoaster

When we decided to adopt our daughter from ChinaWhen we got the picture on the internet I
we had no idea of the roller coaster ride we hadimmediately burst into tears and fell in love with the
signed up for. Looking back on the experience I thinksad looking little girl in the picture.
if someone had told me what it would be like I mayAt this point you wait some more for your
have had second thoughts. Of course that is a lot likepermission to travel. The authorities have to get
pregnancy and childbirth. Once you are into it you areeverything organized for your travel and ok it all with
pretty much committed and in for the long haul.your child's orphanage. We got our permission on
Our adoption was different than most because weOctober 15th that we would be traveling the 25th of
were adopting child number seven. The five otherOctober. That gave us time to organize our kids and
families that we traveled to China with had noprepare for our trip to China.
biological children. When we had made the decision toWhen you travel to China you must stay for two
adopt our daughter we contacted an internationalweeks to wait for your daughters visa and all the
adoption agency in Utah.necessary paperwork to make the whole transaction
I just did a Google search for international adoptionlegal.
agencies and they came up. They were closest to usWe spent the first three days sight seeing without
so I went through them. When I called them I wasactually seeing anything! I still don't know how they
almost apologetic about wanting to adopt a baby. Iexpected us to get involved in sight seeing when our
explained that we were probably too old but werebabies were waiting for us just a few miles away.
really wanting to give a little girl a home.The third day they told us to get in the van we
The adoption agency worker assured me we werewere going to pick up the babies. We were all
within the age limits and sent me the papers to signushered into a big office room and stood around
and the list of about 100 things to complete. When Iwaiting for our daughters to be brought in. As the
say 100 I may be exaggerating by about one or twodirectors came in each with a baby in their arms we
but that is the truth.were all just silent.
After contacting the international agency we had toThe girsl began screaming as soon as the first one
contact our local adoption agency to do ourwas placed in a strangers arms, and the rest soon
homestudy. I called Catholic Social Services becausejoined in. Not to brag but our daughter was the only
there were no other agencies listed. We ended upone who did not cry. She was stoic right from the
paying about $2,000.00 more than we needed tostart and just stared and stared at us.
because they did not tell me DES would do aI knew her the minute she came in the door. She had
homestudy for a fraction of their cost.on the same little knitted red sweater she had been
It took us six months to complete our list of thingswearing in her referral picture and the exact same
to do. The biggest time factor is waiting to getexpression. They called our name and I went forward
documents, finger print checks, visas, etc returned toto take her. That night at dinner another mom asked
you. If you make a mistake it just makes it a longerme how it felt compared to having a biological child. I
process.told her the feelings in my heart the minute they
We turned our dossier in February of 2004 and Iplaced that baby in my arms were the exact same
became pregnant. I mean that too, I ate everythingfeelings I had for each and every one of my other
in sight and gained as much weight as I had with mysix children.
first biological child! We were all very excited andOur adoption was a roller coaster ride for sure. But it
waited very impatiently for our baby girl.was a ride that I would line up for again and again
Seven months later we got our referral. A referral isgiven the chance.
your daughters' picture and a brief bio about her.